Planning a Sober Bachelorette
By Mary Wilson
For a lot of people, a bachelorette party is a time to drink, drink, and drink some more…but what if the bride is sober? Should she not get a night to celebrate just because she abstains from alcohol? Of course she should! Every bride should have a night (or two) with her friends to celebrate the end of her singled. And who says you need booze to have a good time? There are plenty of ways to have fun at a sober bachelorette party; take these tips into consideration when planning to make the event as seamless and fun as possible.
Have the bride make the guest list
While the bride should be along for the ride for the party itself, her one contribution to the event should be the guest list. She can pick out who will be a good addition. Cultivating a positive group of people will ensure everyone has the best time.
Be kind with declines
There are many reasons one of the invitees may decline their invitation to the party. Most of the time, it has something to do with budget, but you will probably hear a myriad of excuses. You may hear a few “What’s the point?” responses. While tactless, it’s nothing to take personally. Accept the invitation decline with grace and kindness, then move your attention to the ladies that will be attending. It’s all about focusing on the positive.
Determine no-go areas
In order to reduce the amount of pressure on the bride, go over what you definable do not want to do and where you absolutely should not go during the party. Certain places – like old watering holes or party streets – could trigger the bride and make her want “just one.” Remove the temptation altogether and create a plan around avoiding these places.
Stick to a budget
In the spirit of sobriety, it’s a good idea to avoid excess. The bride and groom are already dropping big bucks on the ceremony, so prepare to foot the bill for the bachelorette party. Crowdsource your attendees and find out how much they are each willing to spend on the evening. Don’t go over the lowest number you get. If you’re a very lucky person and don’t have to worry about budget, it’s still a good idea to pick out the maximum amount to spend. You’re going to have a lot more ideas for what to do than time to do them, so a budget can help pare this list down.
As the organizer of the bachelorette party, people will look to you and feed off your energy. Keep things light and positive to ensure everybody has the best possible time. Remember that this is a party; you are supposed to have a good time! If something doesn’t work out the way you wanted, don’t make it a big deal. Shrug it off and move on to the next location or activity. Remember stress can be a big trigger for drinkers, so keeping things positive and lighthearted throughout the party can help secure the brides sobriety.
When planning a sober bachelorette party, you have endless options for activities that don’t include drinking. The hard part is all the planning. By having the bride curated a positive guest list, avoiding trigger situations, and staying positive, you can have a great night without the booze. The best part? Everyone will actually be able to remember the fun you have – so go have it!